Neither. He is holy. You may have certain immature feelings about God, however, and they are similar to feelings you may have felt about your parents growing up. If you were receiving or witnessed a sibling receiving punishment or correction you may have felt that Daddy was mean. If you were receiving reward from Daddy, he was nice. In each case, our opinion of Daddy at the time was mostly dependent upon how his way of being was affecting us at that point in time. Later, we grow up and realize that Daddy was always the same. It was really our own behavior that dictated the relationship.